My Secret Garden

The last meet my comm had before the Covid crisis hit my state full speed was a meet to the local art museum during it’s monthly free day. Unfortunately a few days after that, things began to change for the worse, and meets for the next few months were cancelled. So, as a long time admin of my local community, I suggested that we start having bi-weekly themes: a new, revolving theme to change once every two weeks, to keep up morale and promote community participation to offer a distraction in these trying time.  Our last theme was 1 item, 4 coords. Some members choose to choose items that that had been forgotten at the back of their wardrobes, but I chose one of my go-to pieces, a Moi Meme Moitie piece from 2010, my Cross Gather OP. The first coord I did was something reflecting my regular, go-to styling. Something simple, casual, and comfortable. The main reason I wanted to use this piece for this challenge was because I wanted to force myself out of my comfort zon...

As I’ve discussed previously, as the world has mostly shut down during the COVID 19 pandemic, many Lolita’s have turned to remote twinning and holding virtual meetups. This has led me to both twin with local and non local Lolita. Most recently I had the opportunity to to do a tripleting coord with some long-time LiveJournal era friends. We coordinated our matching Meta skirts from their 2000 “Thorn Print” series. In addition to coordinating outfits together, we talked about how the world of Lolita has changed. The younger generation is obsessed with social media, likes, and influenced culture. It’s so strange. Many people seem to get into the fashion for aesthetics or because it’s flashy. I see so many people posting about engagement and followers and it’s so strange to me. Don’t get me wrong, it’s just different and no one is bad or wrong for doing things differently than me. I’ve met a lot of amazing people who have gotten into Lolita more recently. In fact, most Lolita I know be...

Originally I had hoped to be a lot more active here. I enjoyed writing and recording what I could find about the years past. Even if it’s just for myself to look back on and no other audience. Unfortunately due to stress, anxiety and enevitably depression, it became too much for me. When I was finally able to  pull myself out, I was so busy with social and family obligations, making the rounds after becoming engaged(oh yes! That also happened while I was away!), I had even less time for myself even now that I was feeling better. Well, as I’m sure you have noticed, most of the world has stopped in the wake of the covid 19 pandemic. Now we all seem to have even more time than we even know what to do with. I’m currently working only part time, waiting for the day it becomes so bad due to the total incompetence of our world leaders that I myself am either sick, or our entire city is forced to shut down. All of our local meets in the comm I moderate have been cancelled for the fore...

Another week, another year to look at. Last week we finished up the year 2002, so now we start with January 2003. There is definitely a noticeable amount of activity this month compared to previous months. There are 16 out of 31 days in which posts were made throughout the month, a total of 34 posts for the whole month! In January, you see a lot of shoe recommendations for Demonia. Funny enough that we still have people regularly buying and suggesting Demonia for gothic and (now) old school coords! I still have several pairs of shoes from Demonia myself that I wear  regularly! Another thing we see quite a bit of is recommendations to just sew lace and ruffles onto the hems and collars of skirts and blouses...so glad we have better options and have grown out of that stage. I mean, it can be possible to do, but it's a pretty rare situation to find something that's good to go and qualifies as lolita with only a bit of lace. And even then, it takes a trained eye to even be able...

November 9, 2002 This month we start with a thread discussing how often people wear lolita. It seems like same as now, the majority keeps it as a special occasion/hobby thing. Not going to lie, at this time, the lingo was ToTalLy LOLz but now in 2019 reading as a full grown adult it's actually really grating on my eyes and nerves. With how easily accessible brand, or lolita in general has become, how often do you wear lolita? I've been more or less a daily lolita since 2011. And by now, being well dressed on a budget is incredibly simple. November 12, 2002 cybergothica posts "I want to go to Yoyogi Koen park." Yeah. Me too, babe. November 20, 2002 Today we have a post from nymphie , who shares an exert from an email she receives via J-List containing commentary written by gaijin living in Japan. "The social phenomenon known as "kogals" -- Japanese girls who wear outrageous fashions, with blonde-dyed hair and silly elevator sh...

Now you may find yourself asking, "Hey! What happened to July?!" Well, unfortunately it was a slow month, and a total bust. But now we're back with a fairly active month of August! August 4, 2002 Well, today was an interesting find. On this day in EGL history, user dyfferent posted a single link on a post. A post with zero comments or insight of lolita at the time, or anything. This Article , even through all the changes the EGL community has had, I think was as incredibly misrepresented of the fashion then as it is now. READ AT YOUR OWN RISK! From likening the visual aspects to a french maid to insinuating that lolitas don their frills and frocks to appease the males who fetishize child-like sexuality...90% of the article is a huge fucking nope! BUT, before you start screaming into the void of despair, never fret, because a few years later in 2008 the author of this fucking travesty of literary work came to their senses (or, most likely had been repetitively assault...